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Love me. Love me not.

December 5, 2008 By 19 Comments

Being new to the Blogging community, I have yet to fully develop my much necessary “thick skin” Hence, this post was born…


So this entry is for you my Dear Judgmental “visitor”.

I am sorry that upon your visit to my site you were disgusted by the thought that I keep up this blog while raising two children and that the content was maybe not what you expected when your source referred you here.

As Moms we all have our different parenting styles as well as different ways of finding piece of mind as we go about living in our own daily insanities… and that is ok. Just as you may not agree with my decision to keep an online blog , I may not agree with you lying to yourself about being the picture of perfect parenting not being as open and honest.

Given my mood -sometimes my pen here at the house of “Complicated Simplicity” is inked with pixie dust and other times its venomous…. to me, either pen is honest and reflective of the reality of my thoughts and the life that I am learning to love more every day (for better or for worse) as a VERYbusy Mommy... and if I offend, Im sorry… but not really.

It of course would be nice to be loved by EVERY mom (and non-mom) that ever stumbled upon my lil piece sliver of the Blog-erverse… however, realistically,thats just never going to happen… and “AMEN” to that because I couldn’t bare life being that boring.

The beauty of it all? Reading is optional. If you aren’t prepared to hear the truth- Can’t laugh at a little craziness (“its funny cause its true”)… then Okay.Fine.Damn It!you do not need to visit thisBad Mommy’s Blog ever again!

And I do not feel I owe anyone an explanation as to “How I find the time”. As CMO of a household you wear many hats, and one of those hats has to be worn for “Me Time”… this is mine.

So thank you for reading and clicking through– visiting just a FEW of the other AMAZING Mommy Bloggers I’ve been privileged to have gotten to know along the way.
I guess there’s a lot more mom’s out there with the talent of juggling a family and a blog than you ever thought huh? Here have a cocktail … It’s ok. We forgive you.

Best to you and yours,

 

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  • showingoffmyassets

    Wow I guess I am in trouble too. My blog is for sure controversial in it’s subject matter but it is clearly not meant for kids and I am a women first and a mother/wife secondly. People need to get over themselves…

  • Susanne (and sometimes Marley)

    Ha ha, you tell ‘em Corine! Great title, killer post!

    Who’s better than moms at finding creative solutions to problems?

    I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE that in making your point you also used this post to show off and support some of the many other mommy bloggers out there who have interests that don’t necessarily involve their kids. You killed at least two birds with this stone, girl. And I’m not just saying that because you chose me as one of them. Really. But thank you just the same. :)

    Judging mom bloggers as bad parents because they have an interest or want to grow as a person is pure High School. Way to set them straight.

  • DJane

    Found your post through twitter! Very well stated and the ones who judge are most likely jealous. They wish they could do it all and have fun at the same time.

    Fluff it off and welcome to the blogosphere!

    I’ll be back to read more.

  • Janah @ So Not Mom-a-licious

    First, I am sitting here having a cocktail, so that made me laugh! Second, good for you! I have yet to get a discouraging response, and I am almost afraid to think about what I will say if/when I do. It’s too bad that you had to clarify yourself. That is what your blog is for, to talk about you and whatever you so choose! So you shouldn’t have to apologize. I have made many bloggy friends who have had this same problem. And i have found myself repeating the same thing to them – if it were me, I would have told them to ‘Suck It!’.
    That is my tagline and I am sticking to it! no mother should ever judge another! You keep doing what you were doing.

  • Kristy Hall

    Love you! Keep up the great work. I can’t wait to read more.

  • Scary Mommy

    Awesome post! (And I would have thought so even without the shout out :))

    I’ve gotten my fair share of nasty comments too– about my language, attitude etc. Why can’t we all just admit that despite adoring our children to death, sometimes this gig sucks?

    Perfect parenting blogs are the worst, and I’m totally suspicious of those type of people. Something strange is going on if everyday is peachy!

    I stalkered you on twitter, by the way ;)

  • Stephanie

    Great post and I love your honesty. I have to admit I am a little reserved on my blog sometimes because my mother has found it and has been READING it. Thanks for the mention that is really cool how you integrated everyone in the post.

  • Maggie, Dammit

    Ha! Thanks for the shout out. :)

    I have no idea if I’ll ever be blogging long enough to develop the thick skin it requires. It’s been a year and a half and sometimes I think I’m more tender than ever; more reserved, more cautious, more wary. I’m not sure there’s enough time in the world to change who I am inside.

    I’m glad you aren’t taking what your haters said to heart. There has been whole lot written about the inherent misogyny in the mommyblogger-hating movement, you’ll find a lot of good stuff if you start Googling. But the bottom line is you are the only one that knows what goes on in your own home and as long as you are secure in that, nobody can touch you.

    That’s what I tell myself, anyway. ;)

  • Ann

    Hello…new to the SITS world I’m still a little blogger shocked at the large number of talented, crazy, funny and sweet people out there. I hope you do not mind me stopping by…feel free to check out my blog. I am hosting a Give-A-Way that ends tomorrow. Check it out! :D

    I can not believe that we should have to develop thick skin to blog. That is really messed up. It is blogging…read it…enjoy it or move on. It is hard to do what you did and I think you encouraged others.

  • Feener

    thanks for the shout out and i am sorry you got a nasty comment. many times i feel like i am such a whiny downer but i try to think how i have found so much support in this blogging world. thank you.

  • thecocktailcafe

    Thank U so much for the shout out. Im the Chief Cocktail Officer (rhea) over at The Cocktail Cafe and let me just say for the record that “I feel your pain and your frustration”.

    I’ll never forget when my mentor read my site’s about us section and at that time it had cursing. She was so offended that it forced me to change it. But guess what? my honesty and creative writing was what my readers love most about ME. and truly my articles are shining examples of true self.

    I say “please keep doing what you are doing” and I am working your article out right now to post on my site. Us moms NEVER make time for ourselves. We never vent, laugh, cry, curse and just connect as much as we would like. Blogging is our connection to the world and to other mommies as a way of saying “Im going through it too” and “I understand”. Every voice is needed in this wonderful job we call motherhodd and I challenge/encourage you to continue the fight mommy.

    And always “remember 2 make time 4 U, and have a cocktail on me”

    Cheers,

    Rhea Brown

  • Live.Love.Eat

    Did someone really give you a hard time regarding you finding time to blog. How rude. I haven’t received any bad comments yet but I will be sure to point them in your direction if I do so you can tell them like it is :)

    Thank you for visiting and saying hello!!!!

  • Vicki

    Go Corine!!! You gave those h8ters the memo about how awesome you are. You rock!

  • Lyndsay

    LOL, I sort of want to take your entire post and just re-post it on my blog.

    I could pretend I am perfect and have it all together, but I don’t. Instead, I love to portray REAL life, one that makes everyone who reads my blog know that they aren’t the only ones who don’t have it all together …

  • The Rambler

    Holy Crap balls. Don’t make me spill MY cocktail :) I’m snorting in total agreement.

    That was a great post!!!

    I did one about someone leaving a not so nice comment and all my friendly bloggy friends told me to tell that nasty commenter to…

    SUCK IT!….so…SUCK IT mrs. perfect sugar cookie lady. (I’m totally guessing here:)

    Found you via SITS…oh and congrats on being featured on the cocktail cafe.

  • Felicia

    Hello Fellow featured mommy. I love, love, love, your post. I’m sorry that you had to go through this and as a newbie I am dreading the day this happens to me. I love how you incorporated other mommy bloggers to let the judgmental visitor know that there are a lot of mothers out there that are blogging. One question is does this visitor have children? If so how do they find time to read and raise their kid(s). Keep blogging and I’m thankful we were featured together so now I can subscribe to another great blog.

  • Felicia

    Oh and you are fellow SITStas as well.

  • Michaela

    I am so glad that you commented above me today!! Why did I not find your blog sooner? I love your blog – and this post says it all for the “real” mommies out there.

  • Days like These!

    So glad I found YOUR blog! You tell ‘em ;)